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Happy New Year to you all!
I’m entering the new year full of optimism, despite the fact I had to call in sick my first day back to work because of the flu!

I saw the new year in with some of my closest friends. We didn’t go out, but just spent time with each other. It was one of the best New Years I’ve had in such a long time. Relaxed and comfortable, no anti-climax or worrying about how much money we were spending.

I feel more in control than ever before. Even if my life doesn’t change drastically this year, it will because that’s the way I want it. But, I am determined not to procrastinate and to make this year count.

I also want to make sure I appreciate every day, and document more of them, including making sure I write on here more. Some of that will be easier, courtesy of the new camera we treated ourselves to for Christmas!!





Well that time came again, the anniversary of the day I was born!

Birthdays are funny things. We refer to being a year older, even though in reality it is only one day older than the day before! Another year wiser? Hmmmmm, not so sure about that either!

Regardless, I am one to use my birthday as an excuse to celebrate with friends and family.

I didn’t have a hang up this year about the age – I really did feel that age is but a number (thank God, because when I turned 30 I admit, I struggled to get my head round it all!)


My hubby bought me my favourite choccys too. Despite the fact he hates them! So for the first time ever, I actually ate the entire box without any assistance from anyone!! Little miss piggy here!!

Over a few days of celebrating I had fun, watched crashes (banger racing!), danced, drank, ate and was merry. All with the most important people in my life.

I am truly blessed to have such people in my life. I will always be grateful for them.


Five years ago today, I celebrated the happiest day of my life.  Full of hopes & dreams.


It seemed like a great way to celebrate the fact we’d been together 10 years!  How else could I have persuaded so many friends to come on holiday with us for a party? And how else could I justify spending so much money on a dress?!

As much as I joke, it was the most magical day. And although we’ve had ups & downs since that day, I don’t regret it for a minute.  I made a commitment to the man I love, my best friend, my soul mate. 

Not all our hopes & dreams have been fulfilled as yet, but I’d like to think there is still time. But the one thing that has come true is that we have created a safe, comforting and loving home.  My marriage is my safe haven & with it behind me I can do anything.

So happy anniversary to my husband x with all my love x


It has been a big week for us this week…..

It was my husband’s birthday on Thursday.  A few friends also celebrated their birthdays in the same week, so we had a small party.

It was a good night, filled with good friends & laughter.  We finally rolled home at 7am, truly knackered!

In addition, my husband also found out he got a job! He has been unemployed for over 5 years, so this was a truly life changing event.

When we got the news, I was thrilled & so proud.  It also helped me think that everything is starting to fall into place. Maybe we haven’t fallen pregnant because the time truly isn’t right. I began to feel optimistic that we were working our way towards that ‘right time’.

But, at the party, it seemed like us having children was the topic on everyone’s mind.  Maybe it didn’t help that a number of them are midwives so deal with babies daily. I felt like we were being interrogated at times about whether we were going to have them, when & how many.

How many times can we make up different excuses?? My latest one now is that I’m worried about having a child born in 2013. I mean come on! Even I laugh at the patheticness of that comment!!! But people buy it (I think).

As much as I was able to laugh it off on the night, it has gone deeper than that. I am low now, and can feel the ‘woe is me’ frame of mind creeping in. I’ll let myself wallow for another day before snapping myself out of it.

I still have a lot to be grateful for & I know that.  Plus a 12 year old lical girl has been missing since Friday. These scary things help put things in perspective.

It will happen for us one day I hope. I pray for that time every day.



I went for lunch with a friend today.  We met several years ago when he started working for me.  We’ve both moved on to different jobs since, but have kept in touch.

Today, we went to a local pub. As I scoured the menu for the best deal he just laughed at me.  He found it hilarious that I was checking out every single special deal & choosing which one I wanted.  He went on to explain that that was one of the things he thought he was great about me. I earn shedloads, yet I still hunt out a bargain!! I’m “keeping it real” he says!!

Ok. Lets get a few things straight.  I don’t earn shedloads! Granted I do earn more than him as I am a few grades above him, but I would class my salary as healthy! I wish it was shedloads!

Also, regardless of how much I earn, I’m not going to waste it!!! Why wouldn’t I go for the bargain??? Not going for it seems odd to me, not the other way round!!!

We went on to enjoy our lunch. 

On the way back to the office we had to pop into the small supermarket.  As my friend was paying he was asked for his loyalty card. He didn’t have one, so I didn’t waste a blink of an eye in getting mine out!!! When he asked why I bother collecting points I explained how those points transferred into air miles & that those babies were going to pay for my next holiday!!

Yet again, I didn’t help my cause in being tight. But, its got to be done!

So, I managed to get myself a Scrooge reputation this lunch time….I’m not going to change! Who out there doesn’t want something for nothing??? If there is someone who doesn’t…..I’ll have your share!!!


I’ve been smiling most of this evening.  Why? Because me and my girls have arranged dinner.  Its not even that dinner was tonight……but having that to look forward to made my day.

Don’t get me wrong – my best friend is my husband and all that jazz, but no man can do what your girlfriends do.

We refer to ourselves as the Fab Four.  There are a few others that drift around the peripherals, floating in and out as they please, but there are four of us that are strong and tight.  If we are going to dinner – there will always be us four – and then we might have that fifth or sixth addition when it suits.

We are all friends from school.  Two of the Fab Four I’ve know since I was three years old! We’ve known each other almost all of our lives.  There was a gap though.  A couple left my school at the end of primary school and at the end of senior school we had all gone our different ways.  We went about our own lives without a second thought.

Then – 15 years later (or in some cases 20 – ouch when did I get old enough to say that?!?) it all changed.  Facebook came along!  The first time we all got together was 3 years ago.  Since then, and I mean literally since that day, I have spoken to at least one or other of them every week (apart from when on holiday).

We laugh, we fight and we cry together.  We’ve been through each others divorces, babies (and lack of) and every other drama life can throw at us.  Because we’ve known each other since we were so little, its all so easy, so natural.  I know that outside of my family – these are the people I run to.  Sometimes I go to them before my family!  They don’t judge, there are no grudges, they are always there.

And I love them – and they love me.  Its even more special for me, because they are not my family.  They are not related.  They don’t have to love me – they have chosen to.

You know when you were little and all of your parents friends were ‘Aunties and Uncles’?  I had several of those such aunties and uncles.  For some, it was only recently that I realised they were just friends and weren’t family.  Some of their kids, I still refer to as cousins – not just family friends – and thats how we introduced each other to our husbands all years ago.   These girls are that for me – friends so close that my children won’t realise until they are older that they aren’t blood relatives.  Cousins that aren’t really cousins but always will be in their eyes.  I can’t wait until that time.  I want my children to have memories of being up in bed hearing their aunties all downstairs giggling away over some cocktails.  I want them to keep trying to sneak down the stairs to join in the fun.

One day………one day……….